Perfectionism is a personal trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations. For perfectionists, life is all about a person’s accomplishments or looks. Fear of failure is often a driving force in a perfectionist’s life.

When I think about my biggest fear, I think about the idea of failing. Somehow common fears like the fear of never getting married, rejection, or change never trumped my fear of not being successful. I’m sure that many of us can relate. The idea of not making it in life is a terrifying thought. To think that we work so hard and put so much time and effort into building or creating a “successful” life only to never make it is quite devastating. The question is, why do we find that so horrible? 

How many of us are comfortable with having to wait for something that we really want? I’m pretty sure that the answer is none of us. As a society we want instant gratification. That is why everything is optimized for quickness and efficiency. There are microwaves, downloads, internet, food, and even fast fashion. We want everything quick, fast, and in a hurry. 

How many of you feel like you are just in a season of being tested? Maybe trials and situations are getting the best of you and you can’t figure out why. Well I just want to let you know that these challenging situations aren’t coincidences.

Hypocrite….that’s actually who a lot of us are. Hypocrites. Claiming we are one thing, but we are really another. I know you may say I’m being harsh, but it’s very true. We claim that we believe that we can do all things through Christ that strengthens us.